EXPLOSIVE ORAL SEX FOR WOMEN

Oral stimulation of the sexual organs is something both men and women enjoy, but perhaps women enjoy it much more than men. Stimulating a woman's genitals with the tongue is called as cunnilingus and it is probably the most erotic thing to do to a woman. The contact of the man's tongue with the female genitalia is a source of pleasure at its highest extreme and that is all the more reason why the male partner should do it with care. Cunnilingus is not just touching the female vulva and other genital parts with the tongue in a slipshod manner, but there is a certain kind of finesse to the act. Men who really want to satisfy their women must be patient enough to learn the trick and then practice it time and again on their women till they get it right.

One secret about cunnilingus is that it should always be done in a slow manner and when the woman is totally relaxed. Oral sex at the height of tension, or if done in a hurry, will do nothing for the woman. Men should learn to begin gradually and then work their ways towards more intense pressures on the woman's genitalia. The pleasure should build up gradually, and if the man does it right, oral stimulation for the woman is enough to have her end in the big O.

There are actually two different ways in which men can perform cunnilingus on women. This is because all women do not respond to oral stimulation in the same way. Here are the two methods:

1. If a woman cannot peak with oral sex alone, then it is better if cunnilingus is used for her as part of the foreplay, i.e. a method to ready her for penetrative sex. Cunnilingus can be a great option if the male partner suffers from premature ejaculation. In that case, the woman can be warmed up by cunnilingus before the man can actually penetrate her vagina. In that case, the woman will be better placed to achieve her orgasm when the man does.

1. If the woman peaks with cunnilingus – and there are many who do – then men can use it on them often, instead of penetrating them all the time. He can have the woman perform fellatio on him – i.e. oral stimulation of the male genitals – in the traditional 69 position till both partners have their orgasms together. It is indeed good if a woman can get orgasm through oral stimulation alone, because then the sex is always safe, i.e. without any chance of a pregnancy, and indeed it can be performed safely in women who are pregnant also. It is said – not without reason – that seeing a man and woman perform cunnilingus and fellatio respectively on each other is nothing short of witnessing a work of esthetic beauty.

Among sexual partners, it is necessary for them to probe and investigate what makes the other person aroused and then make sure they perform that act. Such knowledge comes naturally to partners who have been with each other for a long time. Men who are familiar to a woman's sexual needs will be fully aware of his partner's erogenous points. He must also assist her if she requires other kinds of stimulation with the oral sex, such as fingering her vagina or fondling the breasts.

For many men, the natural smell of the vagina – which is a bit fishy – is a deterrent to cunnilingus. However, a vaginal douche before the act can solve the problem. Incidentally, even men must wash their genitals if they need to be stimulated with fellatio.

There are some women who are conscious of having their private parts licked by a man, even though he is her husband. The awareness of the smell of the place, or that the man will be able to see thoroughly how she looks down there, makes it difficult for the woman to yield easily. If there are such complexes, they can be resolved through a mutual understanding of the partners. The man must display his earnestness in satisfying the woman so that she doesn’t feel humiliated during the process.

Finally, it must be said that men should not force cunnilingus on their women. Even if detailed talks on the subject fail, men should not be persistent. They must divert to other modes of pleasing their women and of course getting pleasure from them. If men force oral sex on women, it is not going to give them any pleasure at all. That is the basic difference between penetrative sex and oral sex. Penetrative sex can stimulate even if done without a conscious feeling for the act, but oral sex cannot. Remember that in cunnilingus, it is not the man, but the woman who singularly receives the pleasure. So if she is not yet ready for the act, the man must be patient.