GIVING YOUR LOVER A GREAT MASSAGE

You can certainly use several different kinds of massage techniques to give your lover the most pleasurable massage he or she has ever experienced. But the problem is, most people when they think of massages, they think of nothing more than classic backrubs. However, a backrub is not all that erotic. It is good to loosen up muscles and tendons, but it will do nothing to get you in the sexual act.  

Erotic massages – or sensual massages as they are called in censored lingo – must be tried out to understand what they mean. Here we give some instructions to those who have never tried them out. With these instructions, they will come out sweating with passion!

The Ingredients

You must have these ingredients at the least – some fragrant candles or incense, soft languorous music, clean towels and a clean sheet to lie on and massage oils. Of course, when you are used to this, you can let your imagination run riot and get more erotic and fetishist stuff. But for starters, these will do.

The Preparation

It is necessary to get into the groove. Try these to let that happen:-

1. Get all the solitude you can. Turn off the cell phone and lock the door.
2. Get the massage surface ready. You can do the massage anywhere. If you don’t have a professional masseur’s table, then even the bed or the floor would do just as fine. You have to put the towels beneath the knees.
3. If you are massaging on the bed, you will need to spread a sheet on the bed, so as not to spoil the bed sheet with the oil stains.
4. Put off the lights in the room and light the candles. Make the room fragrant with lighted incense sticks.
5. Water is a must during massage. Keep a supply ready at hand.
6. Turn on soft music to titillate the senses.
7. Have a shower, and keep your nails trimmed.

The Communication

It is necessary to talk before the massage begins. Tell your partner that what you are about to give to him or her is an erotic massage and not the traditional muscle easer. If your partner doesn’t want an erotic massage just yet, do not force.

The Connection

You cannot have a good erotic massage experience without making a romantic gesture first. Connect with your partner in some way. You may plant a kiss on your partner’s cheek, or ruffle his or her hair, or simply run your hand along sensitive parts of your body. But somehow you must become comfortable with each other. When this is done, gently take your partner to the massage surface. Remove his or her clothes and tell them to lie flat on the surface.

The Preliminaries

You should never plunge head-on into the massage, or it will kill all sensuality. First you must do no more than stroke your partner’s skin lightly with the tips of the fingers. Begin at the back and then slowly move on to other parts of the body such as the shoulders, arms, buttocks, calves and thighs. Find out if your partner feels relaxed by this finger massage. If the answer is positive, then you can begin going deeper.

Now take some massage oil on one palm of your hand. Rub your hands together so that the oil spreads out into them. This will make a uniform film of the oil on your palms. With these oiled palms, begin the massage on the back with long firm strokes.

You will need to keep asking about the firmness of your strokes. Ask several times till you find out the exact amount of pressure he or she wants. Do not be too firm or too gentle. Take your time, and then gradually convert the long strokes into short deep strokes.

One tip is that you should use the pressure of your body weight rather than the strength in your arm when you are giving the strokes. You can do this by buckling your knees slightly if you are standing and leaning over the person you are massaging.

Now you must build up on the sensuousness of the massage. As you are massaging the legs and feet, slowly move your hands higher and higher so that you begin brushing the buttocks ever so slightly. Do not touch the buttocks or the genitals directly yet.

Then tell your partner to turn over. Massage the chest, arms and hands. If you are massaging a female, then you should be delicate yet suggestive at the breasts. Lightly stroke the erogenous zones of the breasts such as the nipples and the undersides, but do not directly fondle the breasts. Keep the massaging rhythm.

Move down to massaging the legs, brushing the genitals on the way. Work on the legs and feet, with special attention to the knees. When done, move up to the genitals. Keep the pressure quite delicate yet, and your movement should be brushing rather than rubbing in.

Now you have kindled the sexual synergy enough to plunge into the direct genital massage. You can now start fondling the genitals.

The Thick of Things

One very important thing to remember when you are massaging the genitals – whether male or female – is that you should constantly fix your attention on the genitals as well as maintain eye contact. Eye contact is very important to build the sexual rapport. If you only concentrate on the genitals, it may not qualify as a very good sensual massage. At the same time, you must use your other hand to work the other parts of the person’s body, or the built-up energy in those parts will die down.

Massaging the Female Genitals

Begin by rubbing the vulva region first. Then proceed to fondle the clitoris. Pay great attention to the clitoris. Do not be too hard on it; a delicate touch is enough. Then continue with internal vaginal stimulation with the fingers and be particular with the G-spot. It is necessary to create a high degree of arousal. A good idea is to use a vibrator into the vaginal tract while you work the other parts of the body.

Massaging the Male Genitals

For the male genitals, you will need to oil your hands again and then rub it on the penis and the testicles. Women should know this secret of male genital stimulation – arouse the male genital, then stop exactly before he is going to ejaculate. After a few moments, begin again and stop when ejaculation is about to occur. This will prolong the sexual episode. You can pre-decide some cues that the male will use to indicate to you that he is going to ejaculate. Also, try to be different with the penis; men get bored with the same kind of strokes. Finally, after four to five times of stopping the ejaculation, you can let the male squirt and have the orgasm.

The Aftermath

The best way to wrap up a massaging session is to spend some time in quiet togetherness. You can both lie alongside each other holding hands, or can just cuddle up close. This is important to bring the energy levels down to normal; and it is also widely-known that the bonding done in the aftermath of a sexual episode is the best bonding of all. Be intimate, and slightly communicative. This will mark the end of a perfect sexual massage episode.