TALKING ‘NAUGHTY’ ADDS SPARK TO YOUR LOVELIFE

Many people love to hear raunchy talks when having sex. Experts feel that it may not be the raunchy language, but the voice of a loved one that plays an important role in turning a person on. That explains the grand success of phone sex where people are trained to talk in seducing tones.

However, many of us also find it very difficult to talk sexy when actually having intercourse. A large majority of us would not even feel like opening our mouths during the entire act. But that could actually ruin the entire intimacy of the act. Conversation during sex is important. It need not be dirty words and all that, but a modicum of speech is needed to keep things pepped up.

Talking Sexy

Embarrassment is certainly evident when you either talk sexy, or hear sexy things spoken to you. But if you hold out, you might be killing the whole enjoyment of sex. Focus on the desires of your partner. Think about various things you would like to do with him or her, think about the role-playing act or about simply giving oral sex. When you have made a decision on what kind of stimulation you are going to give to your partner, you will feel freer to talk. Another way is to watch an adult movie together.

Speak the right tongue

Talking sexy doesn’t mean talking dirty. The essence is in finding the right words. For women, it could mean describing their men’s genitals. Men love to hear that their penises are monstrous. But that doesn’t mean women have to be vulgar about their apparatus and call it something obscene, but it doesn’t hurt to occasionally be awed about its size and appearance. It is also important to use different phrases each time.

Also, men are experts at watching porn. So the commonly used phrases will do nothing for them. Things like ‘Your cock is so hard’ and ‘It feels so warm inside me’ will do nothing for most men. But if you are genuine and different in what you say, then it will certainly do a lot to him. One more trick is to talk about his cock when you are not having sex actually. This will make him feel you are really impressed with his cock, and he will give you much better when the time comes.

Talk about Sex
 
Even before initiating the sexual act, you must talk about sex. You can just sit on the bed and discuss about what you like and what you don’t like in sex. Communicate. Make a list of the sex positions you would like him to perform on you. He will get turned on just by your interest in them.

Discussing your fantasies before the actual act is a very important part of getting the job done in reality. If he knows that you have had relationships earlier, you might tell him how he makes you happier than your ex-boyfriends, and how you would like to explore deeper fantasies with him. Also ask him what kind of foreplay he himself enjoys. Such talk is certainly good for making your sex better.

Learning Sex Talk

For women, it is very difficult to talk naughty in the bedroom. However, a little practice doesn’t hurt. Here are some tips on the kind of tone you must adopt when talking sexy.

If you are going to have him begging for you, then you can adopt the tone of a sultry seductress diva. He will love that.

If you are looking forward to a night of romping and playful sex, then you must talk in an unabashedly mischievous schoolgirl style. That would go a long way to make him happy.

If he is into bondage and does not mind getting punished from you, then you can adopt the high pitch of a jail warden. Nothing less will do. Here, he will actually enjoy if you insult his body and his penis to the maximum.

But remember that your sex talk should not rule your whole life. This type of talk should be used only in the bedroom and only when you are in the act. It is a good idea to discuss beforehand what kind of talk you are planning to have. Also, remember that the kind of talk you have with one man will not be suitable to another man. Men are highly specific when it comes to sex talk.

Shower the Surprise on Him

Men love to be surprised more than women, and that’s a fact. You can try this out. When in a public place, suddenly whisper in his ear that you are wet. Or, when you are watching a movie together in a cinema hall, suddenly reach out and grab his crotch and ask him, “Are you hot?” Things like that are appreciated by every man in the world.

To make your evenings better, invest in some sex toys. Based on the preference of your partner, buy some leather cuffs, dildos, anal sex toys, massaging oils, etc. Couple this up with your sexy talks and then just see how the fun develops.

Talking sexy does require practice, but with a little bit of it, you will see how your relationship with your man improves.