THE BASIC HOW TO OF A SENSUAL MASSAGE

Sensual massages are ideal devices to release your body of tensions and to stimulate your senses. Different kinds of massages have been developed by different traditions of the world. Massages help to soothe the muscles and bring them to their proper optimal state of functioning, improves the immune system of the body and, most importantly, improves the blood circulation and makes the brain function better. Apart from that, it also tones up the nervous and digestive systems of the body.

The Synergy of Touch

Touch plays a very important role in a sensual massage. It is the sensation that causes lovers to come together and start the foundation of a deeply intimate relationship. But, the touch should not be amateurish. An experienced person will be able to convey several feelings through a single touch.

Preparing the Massage

First and foremost, you must make sure that both of you have time in your hands. You must not hurry a sexual adventure because you need to relax and relieve your stresses.

Take a shower or a bath, together if possible. This is the start of a beautiful massage experience. The shower will also help you to unwind your mental worries, and will bring your body temperature to the right level. Relax during the bath itself, and try to discard all material world worries and cares. Anticipate the pleasures of your massage.

The partner giving the massage must get all the supplies ready, such as towels, massage oil and lotions, etc. Keep the phone off the hook. Interruptions during the massage should not be tolerated as they will ruin the whole setting.

Setting the Scene

The ambience is very important when it comes to a massage. You must choose and play some soft lilting music to set the drift. Dim the lights to a very comfortable minimum, and also light some good aromatherapy candles. You must light candles with a fragrance that appeals to the receiver of the massage.

Then think of the furniture on which the massage will be done. Will it be on the bed, sofa or a couch? Or a special massage table if you have? Whatever it is; be sure to add some soft pillows, cushions and towels to make the surface smooth. Also, select a furniture that will allow you to access the partner’s body from all sides. There must be enough space for the person to move around and turn over.

Bringing in the Warmth

Warmth plays an important role in the massage, almost as important as touch itself. If a woman is getting the massage, then the room temperature should be kept slightly hotter, because women tend to lose temperature more on touch. You can also keep some warm towels below the person’s body.

This is the time to make the person receiving the massage take his or her clothes off. Tell them to lie on their stomach on the massaging surface, and put a towel on their derriere. The giver of the massage may also optionally remove her or his clothes off. A contact of two naked skins will heighten the erotica of the massage like nothing else can.

You can also heat the massage oil a bit in a microwave before you begin, or place it in a bowl of lukewarm water for a few minutes. This will bring it to the temperature you want. Tepid oil is much better than cool oil for a massage, and you should also be sure that the oil is not so hot that it will scald the person receiving the massage.

Planning out Your Massage Moves

A good massage is a massage that has been planned out beforehand. It is a very good idea for the person giving the massage to plan in advance how he or she will bring in the moves. It is a universally accepted rule that massages must begin with the back, and then move to the other regions such as shoulders, arms, hands, buttock and then to the legs and feet. This is enough to relax the person. When the dorsal side (back) is finished, the person receiving the massage is turned over on the belly and his or her front side is worked upon. Here the massage is begun on the face and scalp, and then to the front of the legs, the front side of the feet, the abdomen and then the chest and finally the genitals. Of course, partners can use any sequence for carrying on the massage, but this is the most conventional one.

To start the massage, take about a tablespoonful of the massage oil in your hands and then rub them together. This will make the oil warmer and your palms soft to the touch. Then place these palms onto the naked skin of your partner and begin the massage. The oil must be just enough to cover the entire palms, but it should not be so much that it will start dripping out of them.

Here are important points to remember for people who are giving the massage. The most important thing is that the contact with the body of the person must never be broken. Even when turning the side, the hands must move on the body. Massages have an almost hypnotic effect to the receiver, and if the contact is broken, then the hypnotic trancelike spell is broken. Secondly, try to move your strokes in a symmetrical manner. Perform each of your strokes on both sides of the body. And, repeat each of your strokes. That is important. Do not just touch the body and leave it there. Your partner may have liked that move, and may get disappointed if you do not continue it.

Specific Massage Moves

First and foremost, this is the exact way in which you must begin your massage moves. When you massage, keep your hand in such a way that the fingers are close together; do not spread them apart. Also, you must touch the person’s body with your entire palm. Each portion of your palm must come in contact with the body. If you are massaging in small places of the body that are difficult to reach with the entire hand, then you must use the pads of your fingers for giving the maximum touch. Keep leaning over the body repeatedly, so that you do not feel easily tired.

Here are a few of the basic moves (non-genital) that can be used in sensual massages. You can read about genital massage in other articles on this website.

Full body Stroke

This stroke is employed by people who like to get into the sensuousness of the massage right from the start. Here, the masseur places his or her hand on the hands of the receiver and then with a full stroke, moves up the arms, across the elbow and then to the shoulders. This movement is repeated in reverse. The same kind of motion is then done on the legs, starting from the buttocks and moving downwards towards the toes and back. Later, the exact identical moves are done on the front side of the receiver’s body.

Hand moves

Hand moves include actually several different touches. The most common is of course the full hand move, but different sensations can be created by using parts of the hands such as the palm, thumbs, fingertips, undersides of the fingers and even the knuckles. One good move is to place both thumbs at the base of the receiver’s spine and then move upwards, slowly but firmly. The same thing can be done to the arms and the legs.

Derriere

Massaging the derriere should begin from the centre and then move towards the outer ends. Place both hands at the center of the buttocks and then move horizontally in the opposite directions. Repeat the motion several times. Another highly erotic move is to begin massaging from the thighs and then move up on the buttocks.

Time of Massage

The total time you spend on the massage depends on your own preference. A typical massage session will last from 30 minutes to one hour. As you grow more experienced in massaging, you will be able to give better pleasure to your lover in lesser time. However, that does not mean massage must be rushed. Take all the time in the world if you want and if you can – but the main point is giving pleasure to the person whom you are massaging.

Some couples like to massage each other in turn. This ideal if thirty minutes are spent on massaging one partner.

A Final Word

You must remember to any cues that your partner is giving during the massage. Your partner’s sounds and body language can give you a lot of hint whether he or she is enjoying the massage or not. Pay heed to that. If they contract the body at a specific touch, the indication is that they are not enjoying the move. You will have to change it with something else.

A safe thing to do is to give your partner the same touches that you would enjoy upon yourself. Except the genitals, men and women are generally aroused in the same way when the body is touched.

So now that you have the information on how a massage should be effectively conducted, you can call up your lover, down the curtains and begin making the preparations. All the best!