THE SECRET DESIRES OF WOMEN

Men are very one-sided when it comes to sex. They might want all their fantasies fulfilled, but turn a deaf ear and a blind eye when their women begin to ask something. They might complain that they don’t understand what their women are seeking. But nothing can be further from the truth than this. Women’s desires are usually very clear to understand, but perhaps some women cannot express clearly what they want. Women might sometimes say ‘I want to be happy’, when they actually mean ‘I want an orgasm’. That’s the way women talk, though. Men must train themselves to understand their women and not become insensitive to their demands.

Women are generally not very expressive about their sexual requirements either. They know what they want in their minds, but their own inhibitions may prevent them from putting their thoughts to words. Like men, women do not talk sex openly. It is up to the men then, to understand their women’s hints and innuendos and to give it to them. Anyways, this article is about what most women want, or in other words, what most women expect from their men.

Additional Stimulation

All women want to be stimulated, and stimulation does not mean oral sex or sex toy stimulation. It means stimulation of the mind. It is necessary to bring women to a satisfactory mental level so that they can perform good sex for their men. Men can do this by giving them something special, like a romantic vacation, or even a romantic gesture such as giving them a rose. Flowers can and do turn on women for sex.

A Mixture of Romance and Machismo

Women expect their men to be a cross between Don Juan de Marco and Hercules. They want someone to arouse them sexually and at the same time be a macho figure that they can look up to, feel protected with. Women love a little bit of force in their men. Even if men just hold the hands of the woman tightly during sex, they may feel they are being forced into submission and will have a better orgasm.

Persistence

Women will never say directly what they want. Oftentimes, they say ‘no’ when they mean ‘yes’ and that is truest in sex. That is why women need persistent men to handle them. If a man asks a woman for sex, there is no way the woman will directly begin stripping. But if the man is persistent – not just in his words, but also in his gestures – then the woman will give in. Women commonly talk in the ladies’ bathrooms how they think men who take their ‘no’ for a ‘no’ are sissies, and how those who persist and win are nothing short of Adonis.

Unpredictability

Women love to be surprised just as men do, and I am talking about sexual surprises. They will quickly get bored with men who do the same things over and over again. Women do love oral and anal sex, but they will be too shy to tell that. Some women may also have a fantasy of putting a strap-on or a dildo into their man’s anus but would not be able to put the thought into words. This is where men must take hints. They can take women to a sex store and ask them what kinds of toys hold their interest. From this, men can make a good estimate of what they must want in reality.

Kissing

Kissing seems a very natural thing to want; but statistics show an alarming insensitivity here. Men may kiss their wives when they are leaving for office, but they will not do so when they are having sex with them. Women want more of deep kissing – French style – rather than the affectionate peck on the cheek. In the very famous movie Pretty Woman, Julia Roberts does not allow her patrons to kiss her, and the reason she gives is, kissing makes me feel emotionally attached with the guy. The truth is out there. You may go all the way out in sex, but if you don’t kiss, you are not making an emotional rapport.

Attention

It may not seem true, but every woman – repeat, every woman – gets ready in some way or the other for each sexual episode. It may be a very subtle gesture, like dabbing on a perfume, or loosening up the hair, or putting on a sheer negligee, whatever. But they make the effort. And the only appreciation they want for this is for their men to recognize they have made the effort. However, most men would just rush in, like charging elephants, remove the clothes of the woman without as much as a thought and prod their dongs in. This is not what women want. They want softer sexual enjoyment.

Some women may like the charging elephant approach initially, as it adds to the male machismo, but no woman will like it all the time. So, men must learn to draw a line here.

Non Sexual Love

This is something most men have to take a degree course in. Men might be romantic in bed, but women want much more. They want their men to canoodle with them even when they are not having sex. They want their men to be responsive to their desires, to listen to what they want, and such. And they want their man to stand up for them. If not, the love between them will diminish soon enough and stress will begin to take its place. Stress can have the horrible effect of making a woman lose her sex drive completely. So, it is very important for men to learn how to keep their women away from stressful conditions.